Career Couples: The Pitfalls and Perks

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I'm not here to say I have the slightest idea what it is like to have a baby, career and happy relationship. Not at all.

What I truly enjoy about my job is that I get A LOT of time off. Honestly a lot! One common question I get asked by other female coworkers is "Why do you work?" I feel like that question is subconsciously asking..."Does your Husband/Spouse/Partner provide enough?" That's a weird question? Is there a cap out as to how much a household should earn? When it comes to Graham, I am very protective. I don't like when ANY person tries to diminish what he does.

I don't need to justify to anyone why I choose to work, provide a bank statement or make you do research. If my spouse made a BILLION dollars, I would still work. It's in my blood. It doesn't matter if it's my blog. It doesn't matter if it is an 8 to 5! Selling oranges on the side of the street. That is what I do.

I've been a Stay-at-Home wife and I have been a 50 hour a week working woman as well. Personally? I prefer to work. But I DO see the benefits of staying home. Here is what I think:

Pitfalls: 

Shift sucks:
You wont always have a shift that is perfectly in sync with each-other. Sometimes you will go a week without seeing each other.

Chores:
When BOTH work, the chores have to be allocated evenly. Sometimes it doesn't seem even because one is better at household than the other.


Competition:
If one of us get a promotion, raise or praise. We feel the need to compare and meet up to the standard. So its really complicated when BOTH are high achievers. 


I make more than you/You make more than me:
Sometimes you can feel defeated if your partner makes TWICE or even THREE times what you make. Especially when you BOTH work 40 hours a week.


My 401K/Roth/Retirement plan sucks/is better than yours
As a federal employee, I get better benefits than a person in the "private sector." 




Benefits: 


I get paid to spend time with you:
When you BOTH get holiday pay, you feel a great feeling of awesomeness. 

I understand, work sucked:
You truly understand his struggles at work and know the importance of giving a person space to wind down and reflect on the day.

Don't worry, I have some extra cash/I'll buy:
There is just something liberating about knowing I we can bail each-other out and don't really stress about funds. 

You build great coworker relationships:
Honestly, they become families. A great circle of networking! 

More risk taking:
Because one can hold the fort while another explores it makes it such an amazing safety net for the two to function. We can both steadily rely on each-other and advance in our careers, take trips and dive into big purchases with more confidence. 

You are my favorite colleague:
To know that a person you love can confide in you professionally or can give you advice and guidance is simply a great team effort! 

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