Things Yuppies Who Grew Up Poor Will Understand...

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In life we work hard, sometimes down to the bone...and still get misunderstood. I grew up in a very humble home as a child. I had never seen a standing shower, my fathers hands were always tar and worn and I always wore second hand clothes. I always looked around and saw that other kids parents didn't work long hours doing back breaking dirty work, had pretty homes and had nice cars...and blah blah blah. I always wondered what was different about my family and why I got "the short end of the stick." It took a lot of years to understand that I was never really "poor." You see, the life style I had lived was all my parents knew. My father ran a successful business and my mother had a great job. We lived simple, and my parents invested every dime they had in real estate and their business. My mother always taught us to never check our neighbors plate to "make sure you have more" but to "make sure they have enough." As the years went on I always resented my mother. "Why don't I get to have this and why can't I do that!" Her answer was always the same, "You can, one day you can build whatever you want."

She would always grab a penny and say, "See this, this is what me and your father started with."

I always hated when she told me that. It was then I learned that I have the option to do whatever I wanted in life. That where I came from does NOT determine my future. That I will not be forever labeled one way based on my beginning. It also sparked something inside me as well. All these years of believing my upbringing was a disadvantage, it was really an advantage. I learned valuable lessons growing up with less and always having to work a little bit harder for the same results as others.

Needless to say, thanks to my mother and fathers ENDLESS encouragement, brutal honesty and lessons on life. I can safely say have started my journey in life with a lot more than a "penny." I am very happy with myself in mind, body and spirit. I wake up in my home, go to a job I love and wonder how I possibly deserve a fraction of what I have. I'm not the only one. I am not the only kid that grew up having a little only to later grow and have more. There is nothing wrong with shooting for the stars!

It changes changes your life in many ways, some negative...and some positive. I love my lists, so here is my list of "Things Yuppies Who Grew Up Poor Will Understand..."

1. People will mistake your tunnel vision ambition, as Greed.
I certainly don't consider myself greedy, just very hyper focused. Eye on the prize mentality. I don't want to mess up.

2. I don't want to be "rich" I just want to be comfortable...
I don't want a private jet, maids or a 40,000 Sqft home. I just want to make sure I have enough to on life to pay my PG&E. Oh, and yes...I love shoes. 

3.  You are afraid to have kids...
Two fears run through your mind, you are afraid that you will screw up and deprive them of things. OR, you are afraid you will give them TOO much and ruin them. Either way is equally too hard to bare. 

4.  You are a cheap bastard...
Well, you won't skimp on the things you love, but you certainly hate to let go of funds. Sure I'll buy that nice purse. But, I will find a way to punish myself or conserve. 

5. You will be a generous bastard...
By this I mean, people who knew you once knew will confuse your generosity as a "one up." The fact of they matter is, when you see someone down you feel prompted to give. It has nothing to do with flaunting anything. 

6. You will be accused of forgetting where you came from...
In reality, our past is what fuels your desires for the future. A person may have a lot more these days, but that doesn't take away from who they are or once were. Some people grow up and out and some people don't. 

7. You won't be able to relate to people you are related to...
You are so eager and happy the way your life has turned out, and you want others to feel the same. No matter how you express it, people will always feel like you are down talking them. Always. They will take it as an insult and there is nothing you can do about it...


8.  You don't know how to be Idle...
You always want to work on something...anything. You don't know how to lay back and relax and let the sun light in your lap. Because there is NO room for error. Further more, you get insanely annoyed with people who don't run 100 MPH!

9. You are always reminded of your parents sacrifice...
I always have this expectation within myself to not let my parents down. They worked blood, sweat and tears so that I could have the life I have. That gave me the tools I needed in life. I will always owe them my respect and bring the honor.

10. You never feel worthy of the things you have...
You'll try to downplay things, avoid sharing or showing what you have. You know others will judge you. Why? Because you judge yourself, you never feel like you should have half of what you do.

11. You beat the odds, you weren't a statistic..
You left the cave! (Plato) You never gave up on your dreams and continue to fight for new goals and aspirations. At the end of the day, you are living YOUR dream. It may not be someone else's dream, but it is yours!

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