I am my Best Girlfriend!

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I always look around at other women and try to find the fundamental differences between me and them. This is what I have discovered. They have girlfriends! You know? They have best friends even. Friends they gossip with, hang out with, have lunch with. I have had many friends in my life, wonderful friends even. A long list of wonderful people have come in my life that I absolutely consider friends. However, I feel as though I have never gone that extra mile to make that friendship blossom into something great. Perhaps I am too selfish, obnoxious, or boring. I'm 22 years old, and I can honestly say I don't have a single best girlfriend. I don't even think I have a best girl acquaintance for that matter. How do I go about this? Do I post on Craig's List, "Best Friend Application!"

Anyone that knows me well, knows that I am a social butterfly. I can talk to anyone. I am described as bubbly, loud, and certainly not shy. You would never guess that I have any kind of social anxiety. I can perform in front of millions or make a speech without an ounce of anxiety. On paper I should have a million friends. WRONG! My mother used to beg, plead and implore me to attend parties. I would rather lock myself in my room. I am an introvert to the fullest degree. I adore having in depth conversations with people...people I don't know very well. There is no expectation, there are no strings attached, and hardly any work involved. Once someone utters the words, "Lets hang out!" Those three words send me into paroxysms of a kind of uneasiness I am uncomfortable to admit. So how does an introvert have friends? Perhaps you may relate to me? Here is a list of problems only introverts like me will ever understand....

1. When you need to take breaks and recharge after socializing for too long.

27 Problems Only Introverts Will Understand
I’m not antisocial, I swear! I just need to recharge my introvert juices!

2. When people mistake your thoughtful look for resting bitch face.

27 Problems Only Introverts Will Understand
You like to give thoughtful answers, but sometimes people assume you’re just silently judging them.

3. When your friend wants to invite more people over, and you don’t want to sound like a dick by saying no.

When your friend wants to invite more people over, and you don't want to sound like a dick by saying no.
You might even secretly like a little more company, even if it does give you anxiety.

4. When spending a heavenly weekend alone means that you’re missing out on time with friends.

5. And the fear that by doing so, you’re slowly turning into a hermit…

6. Who will likely die alone.

7. Having visitors stay with you is a nightmare, because it means you have to be on at ALL TIMES.

8. When people stop inviting you places because you keep canceling plans.

9. Too many social obligations + no alone time = a total grump.

10. When you’re asked to do a group project, and know that you’re going to hate every minute of it.

11. When your ride at a party doesn’t want to leave early, and no one seems to understand your distress.

12. When you hear this question, and your palms start to sweat with anxiety.

When you hear this question, and your palms start to sweat with anxiety.
Because the answer is “no,” but you don’t want to hurt their feelings.

13. When you hear, “Are you OK?” or “Why are you so quiet?” for the umpteenth time.

27 Problems Only Introverts Will Understand
Just because you prefer to listen or only speak up when there’s something important to say.

14. Trying to be extra outgoing when you flirt so your crush doesn’t think you hate them.

27 Problems Only Introverts Will Understand
Seriously, I just have resting bitch face, it’s not you!

15. That feeling of dread that washes over you when the phone rings and you’re not mentally prepared to chat.

16. When you have to deal with that one friend who ALWAYS wants to hang out, and you ALWAYS have to say this:

17. When you have an awesome night out, but have to deal with feeling exhausted for days after the fact.

18. When people pressure you to be more social, whether you like it or not.

19. When you’re really excited to go out, but those good feelings don’t last long enough.

20. When you’re trying to get something done at work, but you can’t, because everyone else is talking.

21. When someone calls you out for daydreaming too much.

22. When you carry a book to a public place so no one will bug you, but other people take that as a conversation starter.

23. When people make you feel weird for wanting to do things by yourself.

24. When someone interrupts your thoughts, and you get irrationally angry.

25. When people can’t seem to grasp that being in small groups is where you excel the most.

26. And when you need to be completely alone so you can recharge and get back to being awesome.

27. Because even though introverts are misunderstood constantly, you know this to be true:

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